Posted by Ken in SF (other posts) on February 19, 2014 at 08:00:32 Previous Next
In Reply to: hair length update! and a bit of sad news [PIC] posted by ahseng on February 16, 2014 at 04:52:24:
Hi ahseng,
Young guys who have parents that either don't approve and/or don't like long hair on their sons always find it a difficult predicament to be in. I know exactly what you're talking about, because even though I'm a totally independent old geezer now, I was raised by a father who wouldn't even allow my hair or any of my brother's' hair to even touch the tops of our ears or fall over our eyes!
In my case, after a family divorce and my one and only year away at college, I made the difficult choice of leaving my dad's house forever (but also paying the consequence of not being able to finish my college education, since he was the person paying the tuition fees).
Just to make it clear: I do NOT want to give out any personal advise re. what I think you "should" do in your own situation -- only you and you alone can make these kind of difficult decisions! But, just realize that there's an all-important truth here, regardless of whatever you decide: to whatever degree you are still financially dependent upon your father (including whatever amount of college education you are still hoping to receive, and to be paid for by him)....
It might seem very cruel and unfair (and I speak from experience on this topic, as well as I feel that IT IS a very cruel and unfair choice to have to make); but unfortunately, life isn't always all that fair or kind.
But still, you DO have a choice -- just not a very pleasant one, regardless of whatever decisions you end up making for yourself.
Good luck! My best to you!!
- Ken in San Francisco